Finding My Peace: 30 Things I've Learned in My Thirties

I should probably start by saying I can't believe I'm writing a post about what's it's like being my age. No, it's not because I'm embarrassed to be in my (gulp) late thirties, but rather because I still don't believe that I am. 

The mirror may show the wrinkles around my eyes and the not-so-toned tummy from carrying three babies but I still like to think of myself as that carefree 22-year-old girl; naive to the world around her and filled with ambition and hope. Part of me likes to pretend that girl is still inside of me, buried deep within, just waiting to make herself present again. However the more "mature" me knows better. 

The past decade hasn't been easy; much harder than I could have imagined. Marriage, raising children and climbing the corporate ladder has come with a number of bumps and bruises. Combined with all of other curve balls the universe has thrown at me, and the years have often been downright unbearable.

My thirties have made me overly cautious, overly sensitive and overly jaded to the world around me. I've seen and experienced things from people I would have never thought capable, have lost faith in the world more than once, and have spent so much time on my knees praying for strength and guidance that I've worn out a small section of the carpet. 

My thirties have also been the most amazing, exhilarating, beautiful and rewarding time in my life. The years have given me knowledge, strength, an abundance of blessings, and a heart full of love that I never knew was possible. It's brought me a fantastic husband, three beautiful children, a smaller (but more loyal) circle of friends, a career I am proud of, and a confidence in myself that was never present before. My thirties have taught me to love myself for who I am...imperfections and all. With that, comes great peace.

Here are 30 things I've learned in thirties.

  1. If you have kids, don't expect your house (or car or purse) to be clean. Ever. 
  2. Ask for what you want/need. No one will know unless you tell them. 
  3. Most plans fail. If you must plan, always have a backup. 
  4. Just because you don't know how to do something, it doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Fake it until you make it. 
  5. Not everyone is going to like you and that is okay. Because the people who do like you are the ones that will build you up.
  6. Embrace your failures. From them come opportunities for growth.
  7. Learn to laugh at yourself. We all are a little bit dorky.
  8. It's okay to occasionally have ice cream for breakfast..and lunch...and dinner.
  9. No one and no situation is perfect. Some people are just better at hiding their flaws. 
  10. It's the little things that matter most.
  11. True beauty lies in the cracks of imperfection.
  12. The path may not be easy, but the journey is beautiful. 
  13. Buy the shoes.
  14. Treasure true friendships. They are hard to come by. 
  15. No one will love you as much as your mom does. 
  16. Be kind to others. You never know what they are going through.
  17. It is never too late / the wrong time/ the wrong place/ [insert excuse here] to tell someone you love them. 
  18. When an opportunity presents itself, don't be afraid to take it.
  19. Be genuinely happy for your friends’ successes. 
  20. Make sure to save for a rainy day. The rain will come and you will wish you had that umbrella. 
  21. Give back. Help others. 
  22. You'll never forget your first love, and that is a good thing. 
  23. Nobody is judging your body so neither should you. No one (and no body) is perfect. 
  24. Listen to your instincts. They are usually right.
  25. Your past doesn't have to define your future. 
  26. Enjoy your loved ones while you have the chance. One day they won't be here. 
  27. The whole karma thing really is true.
  28. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Most people will go out of their way for those that do.
  29. There is nothing sexier than a woman who is confident in her own skin.
  30. You are stronger than you think.